I have recently been struggling with different personality types, and how to lead them. I am talking about friends, children, employees etc. I realize you are rarely going to get to lead a team of people exactly like you, so I set out to discover what personalities I could expect and how to recognize them.
If people were all the same, being a leader would be easy. A one-size-fits-all approach won’t work, though, in the real world, where the world is filled with a wide variety of personalities, not all of them are compatible. What motivates one team mate to give his best effort might cause another to zone out. Good leaders will tailor their approach to the specific personality types of the people they seek to motivate. It all starts with being observant of individual differences.
Test or observe team members to become more familiar with their personalities. Some organizations use tests such as the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator to assess personality types. If this isn’t possible in your organization, observe their behavior and listen carefully to what they say.
Identify which team mates seem to care most about new challenges and opportunities for advancement, and which care most about security. Motivate the challenge seekers by providing opportunities for professional growth and creativity. Motivate the security seekers by being consistent and by giving them what they need to do their jobs well.
Demonstrate sensitivity to the differences between extroverts and introverts. Plan schedules so that extroverts are able to spend enough time with other people and introverts are able to spend enough time alone. Help extroverts stay on-topic when they are speaking in meetings, and encourage introverts to talk without overly pressuring them.
Give detailed instructions to employees who lack initiative and avoid responsibility. When dealing with employees who like to take charge, be clear about goals but let the employees decide how to reach them.
Understand your own personality type. Self-knowledge helps you deal with people who have personalities that are similar to and different from your own.
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But I have it right, so everyone should be like me. =)
I really keyed in on the introvert / extrovert ideal in this. I tend to be introverted in my processing of information, but extroverted in my execution of actions. I need time to let something filter through my process oriented thinking to make a decision, but once I make the call I GO. It’s important to realize that because if you rush someone before they are able to think through, you may not be allowing that person to give you their best thoughts/ideas etc.
That’s funny to me because I tend to be the exact opposite. I tend to come to a decision very quickly. But, my execution can be a bit labored.
I just got a mental image of Kathy’s expression at reading that Kevin.
As I mentioned on FB, get a book called “Emotion Vampires” by Albert Bernstein, a great read.