Kevin Bowser
A little Jewish teaching today is what is in store for you today on Fatherhood Friday.
I was recently reminded of the commands given to fathers from the Talmud. What is the Talmud? Well, literally, the Hebrew word is translated as “Study”. The Talmud is the central text that comprises the ceremonial law and the oral teachings that were used as part of the education of every Jewish male. And it had much to say.
What words does it have for us today? I think we would do well to be reminded of what Jewish fathers were commanded to do regarding their male children. A father was commanded to do these three things:
- Circumcise his son. (I won’t be dealing with that particular one today, or probably any day in the foreseeable future.)
- Teach him the Law.
- Teach him a trade.
It is my intention today to remind us fathers that we have some important tasks. In fact, they are Biblical commands.
Teach him the Law – And this has never been more necessary. Dads, it is your job to instill in your sons a sense of right and wrong. It is your job to teach them about justice and truth and eternal values. It is your job to model for them the fact that you lead an upright and circumspect life.
Along with the Law, I would also encourage you to teach them a sense of honor and respect for their mother and their sisters if they are fortunate enough to have them. This will give them a set pattern of respect for women that will serve him well and help ensure that your heart as a father is not broken later by the actions that your son takes as an adult.
Proverbs 22:6 says it this way, “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.”
Teach him a trade – Here is one that at which we in the 21st century may need to take a more modern look. If I am to literally teach my son a trade, he and I would both starve. I did not inherit my own father’s skills with his hands. My brother got all of those it seems. And I was not able to pass down a particular skill or trade to my own son. Instead, I focused on passing along to him a work “ethic” rather than a particular work “skill”.
This is the message that I believe is there for us today. We need to be teaching our sons that there is value in work and that work is a part of being a man. I see so many who want the high-paying jobs without going through the process and gaining the experience to be able to compete for those jobs. And perhaps that is part of the problem. We are surrounded by a generation that has had everything handed to them. They have not had to work for anything. And therefore, they are unable to comprehend what real life is like and that we may actually get icky dirty in some of our entry-level jobs. My first job after graduating from college was to crawl around under houses in Atlanta, GA and look for termites and other things that may infest a house. Not exactly glamorous, but it was what I could find.
I hope you are all thankful that I chose to skip over item #1. And I hope that you will show your appreciation by really thinking about the implications of #2 and #3.
What are your thoughts? What do you believe is critical and necessary that we teach to our sons?
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Kevin I think it goes with out saying how important Law #1 is, and recognizing the Talmud as “Spiritual Law” may be the most important. But I want to dive into Law #2, which I think is equally important. Now being the father and grandfather of only girls, I have sort of massaged this rule to fit my house. I dont think the “Teach Him a Skill” is as literal now as it may have once been. I wonder if there is an old Hebrew definition of “skill” that we dont know. Because I wonder if this :skill” to which we refer, isnt the “skill” of manhood. No offense to any on this forum, because I know some of your sons and they are great young men. I am speaking to those who dont think it is important enough to be involved here. Men, if I could get you to teach your sons how to be men, it would save me alot of trouble and ammo, when they grow up and start calling on my daughters and grand daughters. Just a thought.
I think law #2 is really about relationships. It is about the relationship we have with God. but it is also about the relationship that we have with one another.
As for law #3, I really think it is about the importance of work as opposed to teaching him how to drive a nail or rebuild a carburetor. But we are surrounded by men who don’t have a very strong work ethic. Is this a failure on the part of their father???
Kevin, I’m a huge fan of teaching work ethic. My fathers & grandfathers have taught that for generations. I only hope to instill it in my son as my dad did for me.